First, let me start out by saying that I’m 21 years old. It’s kind of ridiculous, the things that my mother does. First, it’s my ‘chore’ in the house to do the dishes, which I have no problem with. But when I either don’t get around to doing the dishes before my mother gets home, or forget to do a few, she starts ‘punishing’ me. She starts by taking away my computer. Now let me say that I have my own computer, in my room, all I do is use the actual internet service that’s for the entire house. Then, she takes the house phone. Mind you, she takes the ENTIRE phone off the wall, so not only can I not use it, no one else can either. Also, when i’m ‘allowed’ to use the computer, she has my stepfather shut off the box that runs the internet service at 10pm on the dot, no matter what I’m doing. I can’t be on the computer at all unless it’s a weekend or after 5:30pm. I think this is ridiculous for a 21 year old. How can I explain to her that this is getting a little too extreme? I understand that this is her house & I have to obey her rules, but I think she has rules set for a 14 year old, not a 21 year old. It annoys me because she does little things like last night I was eating spaghetti and I was sitting on the sofa, she goes ‘Don’t get any on the furniture’. Honestly, I could understand telling a child this, but doesn’t it sort of go without saying for a 21 year old? I’m pretty sure part of the problem is that I’m an only child & this is the first time she’s done this, but you would think after telling her that 21 year olds don’t get punished enough, she would eventually begin to realize.
Also, for some reason, more recently..my mother has this thing about hurting me physically. The other day I had an itch on my back that I couldn’t get to, and I asked her to get it. I sat down on the sofa with her and she was scratching it then my cell phone rang. She couldn’t hear her show for a second, so she started to scratch REALLY hard on my back, causing my back to bleed. She does that kind of thing constantly. Whenever we have an argument, she gets in my face trying to physically fight me. My friend said that maybe my mother has an alcohol problem. She drinks every night, having 3-4 drinks a night. She doesn’t get drunk.
I just don’t know what to do, or where to turn for help. She’s a hard person to talk to & I don’t talk to my stepfather at all.
Could someone please help me? Serious answers only please.
Moving out is kind of not an option right now. The money I make is in no way, shape or form enough money to live on 100% independently. And jobs are very hard to come by in my area right now. You kinda gotta take what you can get.
I do appreciate all the answers though.
Just a few things, I do pay bills here. I pay for 100% of the food. I pay for half of the internet bill (the internet that they take away from me lol). The man that lives here is NOT my father (my birth father passed away in September), he is my STEPfather, the man my mother chose to marry. I have my own personal reasons for not talking to him, so i am in no way, shape, or form obligated to talk to him. Just know that there are reasons that I don’t talk to him & I’m not obligated to talk to everyone that comes into my life. I have the right to not speak to whoever I please.
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my birthday party is next weds.. im going to be 21. me and 6 of my friends are going out to eat by limo then going to the bars. all that is planned… but i need some help with my look!
